Monthly Archives: April 2013

Yesterday was good!

Yesterday was a good one for the diet and exercise. It was the first “perfect” day in, well….months.

Shake for breakfast
Shake for lunch
Lean Cuisine for Dinner
Two 100 calorie bags of popcorn as snacks

Usually, I would stop in and get some pop chips…or go out for dinner with a friend. Nothing wrong with that and I’m able to maintain…but I wasn’t losing. In looking at my goals, I can still reach my monthly goal, but I need to do daily goals along with it.

Today’s goal: repeat a perfect diet day.
So far, so good!

Made it out to the gym last night after work. Did some weights exercises (I’m starting to lift more!) and 30 minutes of elliptical work(353 calories). Today is a Zumba day. I’m going to do an easy work out for 40 minutes today. Maybe the easy version will take things just a little bit slower!

In other news, I’ve started reading a book. Boyfriend 101. It’s kind of like a gay guy’s guide to dating. Mostly, I’m looking to work on myself. So far, it has proven interesting, but it really isn’t much that I haven’t heard before. Listing my wants and needs across different areas. The funny thing was an entire chapter about small talk. Surprise, surprise…they talked about counseling skills. I’ve mostly avoided actively using them because I’ve wanted to avoid “playing shrink” to people. Perhaps I’ll give it a try and see how it works.

I’ve had to be really honest about my efforts. Am I surrounding myself with people who are single and available? No. Bars aren’t the place to do it either. I need to get out there more. This weekend, I think I’m going to go hang out with the Open Doors group and see how it goes. It’ll be a chance to practice small talk and to use those skills of mine.

More updates soon!

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Weekends are much too short

Today feels like it should be another day for the weekend! Having orientations on Saturday is super fun, but it still takes away time from normal activities. I am slowly working on adding rock to my backyard still and put out about 10 bags per week.i have the side of the house done and now it’s on to the other side. It’ll take some time, but will be worth it, I hope!

Nelson eventually was free to hang out on Saturday night and we managed to convince Josh to go out with us to a bar. I assumed my natural role as DD. Usually, I prefer this role because I know that I’ll be safe and can make sure my friends are safe too. And there’s always the calories, too. Our first stop was Apollo’s for karaoke. A little slow at first and I never take the stage (but sing along well enough). The bartender came over and gave me a diet soda because he knew I was the DD.

Then…we made it over to bar one and were confronted by some boys in heels. They proceeded to tell us that we needed heels in order to go in, but later said that they were joking. As we enter the bar, they were telling the truth. It was a heels party and all the guys were wearing them. Don’t think I’ve ever worn heels and don’t think I have the coordination to pull it off. Some of the guys here didn’t seem to have a problem moving around though. We took our perch outside and Nelson made friends with a dude who was initially wearing a spartan outfit. Yea, it was strange.

Along with buying the rock on Saturday,, I also stopped off at Best Buy to purchase this Zumba video game. I put off playing it until I could be alone in the house. Being easily embarrassed and not knowing how to dance is a bad combo. The game had a tutorial in which is showed basic steps, but it was just so awkward that I skipped most of it. I found a 20 minute class and started it up.

Immediately, the dancers were going all over the place and I wasn’t able to keep up. No way that they showed all of those moves in the tutorial. All I could do was flail around my living room while occasionally making sense of some of the movies. But, I noticed that I was smiling and sweating during it all. Perhaps this is the start of another arrow in my fitness quiver? Perhaps. I did really like the Bollywood style dances. If only I could feel comfortable using my hips a bit more. In time, Joe, in time.

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Kayaking Postponed

Heylo all!
The plan was to go kayaking at the town lake near work. That’s not going to work today, unfortunately. As it turns out, there is a salsa festival at the lake that is apparently expect to bring in 20,000 people. I’m not going to be able to get near that place today. There’s always to tomorrow.
So, what do I do today? I’m going to do some landscaping work. Each week, I get 10 bags of rock to cover some of the dirt in my back yard. It’s coming along, but I have some work to do. After that, I’ve been considering giving zumba a try. Lets be honest…I cannot dance for the life of me. I have no idea of my hips at all. People have tried with great effort and failed miserably. So, maybe this will help loosen me up a bit?
I’m starting to set my eyes on running again, but I’m wondering if there are any distance runs (1/2 marathons) in the local area this summer. It’s very hot here and as much I would like to travel to run, the pups kind of put a lid of those ideas. I need to find something local.
In other news, I got the final answer about the PhD program from the Registrar. I would certainly be considered an out of state student at this point. Unfortunately, that is the end of my time at ODU. On to different and better things? Perhaps I will look into new academic pursuits…

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Yesterday was my day off from the gym. It felt so good to be able to come home early and wrestle around with the pups. Still felt guilty for not going to the gym, but this is the deal that I’ve made with myself (one day of the work week is off).

This weekend, I have a work engagement on Saturday morning. Since I work close to the town lake, I am considering going kayaking for a few hours. This will be my first time in that type of boat. Should be fun ­čÖé

Starting to struggle a bit with the diet again. It is just too easy to cheat at times. I need to get back to that place where that initial hunger was a good thing because it meant that my body would use itself for energy. I just need to remind myself of that.

I think I’ll do a task that Jillian mentioned during her talk. Set an alarm on your phone for every hour of the waking day. When that alarm goes off, ask myself if I’m doing what I am supposed to be doing to achieve my goals. That should be helpful.

Alarm set.

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So, maybe the PhD won’t be happening after all. Since I’ve been gone for over a year, I need to reapply. Normally not a problem. When I go to reapply, it informs me that I need to redo my residency. Out of state tuition is not an option.

There goes that idea!

Handling it pretty well. Just going to the gym in a few hours to burn off some calories and frustrations.

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It’s one of them Mondays

Totes is a case of the Mondays. I have no idea why I am so absent minded on some days.

I was all packed and ready to go. Was happy to hit the gym today to try new levels of weights. As I pick up my gym bag to take it to work, I realize that it contains my shoes…and nothing else. So, it looks like tonight’s exercise will be a four mile run less I want to go to the gym in my birthday suit. So…the run it is!

This weekend was much needed! I essentially turned myself off and just let myself live for the weekend. The diet was strayed from, but somewhat intentionally. Please never forget to give yourself some mental, physical, and spiritual health days once and a while. You will thank yourself later on for them! Even managed to get some chores done around the house. Started laying some rock in be back yard. Doesn’t look too bad at all, but a long ways to go. Connor even had his first vet visit and we were in and out in 20 minutes. He’s all vaccinated. My pointe this weekend was to spend time with the pups. I think they really liked having me home all day. Last night was the first night that Connor slept through the whole night. Good boy.

I’ve been looking ahead toward summer and trying to plan some of my runs and what not. Phoenix time in the summer is generally not good for long distance runs. 5ks are pretty common in the mornings, so I’ll make the most of them as they come up.

I’m really, really, really starting to get the distance running bug again. Dunno if it’ll happen this winter or not, but we shall see!

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Evening Peoples!

Not too much to report today. Shake for breakfast. Subway salad with egg white and avocado (no dressing/cheese) for lunch, and a Guiltless Chicken Sandwhich with a side salad for dinner with a cup of enchilada soup. Had some Guac w/ chips for an appetizer, but I’m okay with that.

Exercise tonight was just a few miles of walking after dinner. A bit of an off night, but tonight was a date night (hence the Chili’s). We had planned to go paddleboating, but it was closed. So, we walked around. Good conversation. Good times. More in the future? Certainly open, but I’m not going to go all boy crazy anymore. Just going to do my own thing and let the cards fall where they may.

Turns out my back is starting to become sore from training yesterday. He said that’s what he was trying to work, and by golly, he sure did!

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“I don’t hate my trainer.”

“I don’t hate my trainer.” Said no one ever.

An all around solid day for the diet. Still under my calorie limit for the day. Two shakes, two 100 calorie bags of pop chips. One Pasta diet meal. Some carrots and hummus. All in all, not bad.

Training was a little brutal today. Scott, my trainer had me work the arms today. The first bits were not bad at all. It was the last 20 minutes that did me in. He brought out this really heavy rope and looped it around a rail so that I could hold both ends. Then, I took turns shaking the rope and doing sit ups with a weighted ball. That part wasn’t the worst. The worse was doing 20 seconds on and 10 seconds off rope drills. I was totally exhausted at the end. I wonder how I will feel tomorrow….

Weight from this morning was 207.

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Today was a day for the struggle-bus.

The day started out okay with a work meeting. It was one of my mentor’s last day at work before taking a new position. I’m going to miss her so much. She was a real advocate for us here at work. Now, we’re kind of on our own. She had a little bit of a celebration at the meeting. Since it was her last day, there was cake. I had a piece of cake, but quickly logged it into MFP. I figured I would work it off at the gym later that day.

In the second half of the day, I started a conversation with a friend where I quickly became a target of some rather harsh criticism. Some of it was valid. Some of it was certainly not. So, this guy thinks I’m a horrible friend for prioritizing friends and never going much in depth with details during conversations. Both of these are true. I do prioritize some friends above others. If they happen to be busy and I’m still wanting to go do something, I will go on and ask other people in my network. It’s not intentionally mean, but it is how I operate. It isn’t that I don’t want to spend time with others in my network, it is just that I tend to cultivate the plants that are providing me with the most in my life. I’m not sure if I need or want to change that.

He did have a major point in that sometimes I tend to be uninterested in the details of conversations and flutter from topic to topic. Part of this is my own social awkwardness and part of it is just not thinking there was anything more to say. If you tell me you’ve graded papers all day, I know what that’s like and I don’t think more details need to be specifically said. I can see where this is an area for improvement for some. Just because I don’t think there’s anything else there does not mean that the person I’m with is thinking in a similar fashion.

The oddest thing is that I actually do really know how to listen to people. Better than most people, I would think. I just have to turn it on and I often don’t because I tend to go into counselor mode when that happens and I want to stay away from that.

Beyond that, there were several misunderstandings on my motives which lead to sarcasm and anger. I put the ball in his court to continue any form of friendship and he appears uninterested in continuing.┬áNeedless to say, that conversation brought me to tears. Losing a friend is never easy. Instead of the gym, I went home to get some of my life in order. I cleaned and had dinner (within the diet) and took the dogs on separate walks. They behaved splendidly. Josh offered me some of his hummus, and I had a bit with some carrots. Pretty tasty. Still under my calorie limit for the day and I’m happy.

I did weigh myself this morning. Back down to 208. On the right track.

Days like this really help cement my decision for my plans to relocate once I earn my doctorate.

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Cough, hack, wheeze

Hey all,
As promised, here’s today’s entry.

The diet was okay. A shake for breakfast and lunch. For dinner, Tim, Nelson, and I went out to Chili’s. I chose the light chicken sandwich. Instead of broccoli, I subbed in for a side salad. Since I abhor broccoli, this was a decent choice. For one of my two snacks for my daily allotment, I ordered a cup of chicken enchilada soup. Everything logged into MFP adequately. I got home and had a 100 calorie bag of popcorn after my run.

Exercise: I made a bonehead move and forgot my gym shorts at home. So, I decided to work out from home and attempt to best my previous mile best. I did it! The previous time was 7:53. The new time.



I still think I could do it faster. Towards the end of the run, there were no lights on the road and I was running in this unpaved and bushy lot. I slowed down a bit so that I wouldn’t trip and injure myself. It sure did feel good to see that time though. Even though I haven’t been actively working on my running, I am still moving forward. Now, I’m having trouble trying to catch my breath. Still very short after that run. Still a little congested and sick, too.

Emotions: I was feeling okay for the most part today. Toward the end of the day, my hunger and caffeine withdrawal started to kick in. Thankfully, dinner remedied both. I remember welcoming the hunger because it meant that my body was going to use itself for energy. Thinking I need to get back to that point.

When I was with Nelson and Tim, they decided to make a trip to this handmade ice cream sandwich shop. I went, but did not order. They smelled delicious though. But, I had my eye on a bigger treat for today.

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